08 Jul Inadequacy.

What is it really? No, like for real? What is it? I had such an amazing conversation with my homie Jamahl yesterday. In this convo, I really came to a nice place of resolution around the issue. I gleaned the idea that inadequacy can only survive in a shroud of fog and darkness. If you can clear the smoke and shine the light on it, you can do something about it.

An overarching concept that keeps coming up in different areas of life for me (which means it’s probably a principle), is the concept of thorough and transparent honesty leading to productivity. This type of honesty starts inwardly. It is the ability to be completely honest with yourself about what is really going on.

In this area, it is a very simple equation. First, figure out EXACTLY and PRECISELY what is the source of your inadequacy. Air it out. Make it plain. Make it clear. Secondly, once you’ve done that, there are really only two options. You can either accept that this dynamic is the way that it is, or you can do something to make it different.

Sometimes making it different takes a significant deal of investment. The changes may require you to reach out to someone who knows more about the area than you. Other times you have to accept the thing because it can’t be changed. Then, there are times when shining the light on the area helps you to realize that you don’t really want to change the area. In these situations, you realize that there is no reason to feel inadequate at all.

All of these scenarios require the light of honesty. However, through honest and introspective reflection, we can clarify and address our feelings of inadequacy. Then we choose our path: accept it or change it. This process may not always be as easy as it is simple, but I have a feeling it will always be rewarding if we embrace the courage to engage with it.